Monday, May 17, 2010

Resources to Battle Against Lust

After the sermon on May 16, 2010 (available here:, I got a LOT of questions about resources that were mentioned during the message. So, I have gathered several here, and added some that I have just learned about.

Every Man's Battle and Every Young Man's Battle by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker.
Both of these are available at Christian bookstores and / or websites everywhere...or by clicking on the links provided! I have both in my office if you'd like to preview them. These books recognize that today's media bombards men with sexual images and temptation, so it's no wonder that "sexual addiction" is on the rise---even within the church. In this compassionate brother-to-brother guide, Arterburn and Stoeker tackle this serious problem head-on, offering a practical battle plan for men---married or single---who desire to live by God's standard.

Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain by William Struthers is another great resource. In this book, Struthers examines how images are imprinted along neuropathways in the male brain. An important book to understand how powerful visual images are to men. Also a great warning for women and/or mothers who regularly subscribe to magazines featuring half dressed women on the front! You are inhibiting the ability of the men in your life to fight temptation when they can't go past the coffee table without seeing it.

False Intimacy: Understanding the Struggle of Sexual Addiction by Harry Schaumburg is another book that can provide insight into the challenge of sexual addiction faced by so many. False Intimacy offers honest biblical solutions to help overcome the compulsion to act on false "relationships" and find true intimacy. A Focus on the Family Recommendation.

Josh Harris tackles the issue in my "It Doesn't Hurt to Look" sermon directly in his book, Sex is Not the Problem (Lust Is). Josh shows how lust has become so pervasive in our culture to the point that sexuality has become a negative - contaminating what God intended as a gift. Learn how to reclaim sexuality and sex as God originally planned as you cut through the deceptive lies of lust. See through new eyes enjoy a life of purity as you follow the steps in this countercultural guide.

Another great resource is ScreenIt.Com...This site offers a FREE and Pay provides a detailed accounting of language, violence, disrespectful attitudes, and sex/nudity in a film. I HIGHLY recommend this site...although, I have to warn you - it may cut down the number of films you watch!

A final resource is X3Watch, an accountability software available from the folks at TripleXChurch. These guys have a unique ministry to those in the adult film and strip club world. And, they provide a great accountability resource in X3Watch...essentially you give them an accountability partner's email address (or your spouse's) and they get an update every 2 weeks or so of any / all the questionable sites you have visited. Our Student Pastor has been using this resource with young men for a number of years with great results.

Jesus: The Real MythBuster

What does life look like in the Kingdom of Heaven? What does Jesus expect of His followers? What should life look like in the church?

The seven part MythBuster series will examine Jesus’ answer to those qustions as we Matthew 5:20-48. In that section of the Sermon on the Mount, we will look at the six times Jesus said "You have heard it said...but I say unto you." In so doing, he is NOT overturning the OT...rather, he is correcting the erroneous interpretation of the OT by the scribes and Pharisees. In other words, he is Busting Myths perpetrated by the religous leaders of His day.

Unfortunately, there are many of these myths are still perpetrated in the kingdom of God and in the church. So, it is incumbent upon us to BUST these myths with the Truth of God'sWord.

During this series, we will examine the following seven myths:
5/2 – Actions are more important than my attitudes.
5/9 – Worship is not affected by broken relationships.
5/16 – It’s ok to “look,” as long as I don’t “touch.”
5/23 - Marriages are not meant to be permanent.
6/6 – A lie is just not that big a deal.
6/13 – Getting even is alright if you were really hurt.
6/20- There are some people I just can’t love.

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